Give It Away Now

From the Desk of the Professor:

Ginger and I love hosting parties. We enjoy creating the intimate, sexy atmosphere for friends to enjoy an evening of release. We do not tend to consider the economics of swinging. How does one 'monetize the value' we provide? More directly, how do we avoid losing our shirts? That is, recovering our costs. We do enjoy losing our shirts, but that is another story. . .

In June and then again in July, we organized parties at local hotels with a select group of friends. Both parties went off without a hitch. Better than that, the chemistry at both parties was great, even as most of the people attending had not met each other previously. Ginger and I both believe in the abundance mindset--while other swinger friends keep their "favorite" friends to themselves, we put them all in the same room and see what happens. A grand social experiment of sorts. For ingredients we add three or four hot couples and a single female--yes, we even invite the proverbial unicorn--and voila, we end up with sex in every room and a fluid, open dynamic.

For entertainment, we tried Rock Band II for the first party. Not so sexy. Apparently, not everyone wants to be rock stars as bad as Ginger and me. While we put ourselves out there like the singer Pitbull ("I party like a rock star, play like an All Star, fuck like a porn star. . ."), others are less willing. Well, we are quick learners. So for the last party we changed over to Jenga. A custom-made sexy Jenga that is. We wrote all over the Jenga pieces with different actions, and it was the proverbial hit. The penalty for knocking over the pieces was removing an article of clothing. The first round went great. There was kissing, touching, telling, and polling (such as "when did you lose your virginity?"). The second round went great, but with the increased heat in the room, the 'action' items needed to be kicked up a notch. So a word of advice: you may want to create your own warm up Jenga set, and then the 'advanced' action set for the second round. It may go without saying, but we didn't get past the second round. . .

Out of both experiences, we were left with not only a profound sense of satisfaction--sexual and social--but also a significantly lighter wallet. Since we live in a vacation area, summer room rates are even higher than usual. After the first party, we realized that people wouldn't necessarily offer to contribute toward the room. So for the second party, we explicitly asked in the invitation. Because everyone from the first party came back and there were some new couples, we had to upgrade to a larger room. We didn't update the party costs to reflect the higher room rates. And even then, not everyone paid.

So the point of sharing these experiences in the blogosphere? Perhaps to get some advice in the economics of swinging. Our problem is that we would rather focus our energy on creating the best experience for our friends--at nearly any cost. Yet, this realistically can't be a viable long-term strategy. But then again, when I think of seeing Ginger being pleased, over and over, the benefits are so much more than the costs!

"What I've got you've got to get it put it in you
Reeling with the feeling don't stop continue"
-Red Hot Chili Peppers